I'd Rather Not

Every once in awhile I come across something that will make me laugh the rest of the day...possibly longer. I've never been a fan of Steven Seagal. Frankly I think he's a douche bag. But there's something hysterical about this martial artist who has always tried to come across as serious and highly intelligent releasing a blues album with a particular request for all of us.

Seems that Steven Seagal has a special message for us all and the only way we can hear it is to Talk To His Ass.

John Moe for MSN Music puts it best in his article titled, "...Singers Who Can't Sing" and has had me cracking up the entire morning:

Hey, I've never claimed to be mature all the time.

What she didn't bother to do was explain what she meant. She let me figure that one out all by myself. And, as I stated above, that sure as hell didn't happen overnight. It was years. But I get it now. Of course when I try to share this wisdom with people, most people will fight me before I ever get the chance to explain what she meant.

In person, people can just start arguing with me, talk over me and not hear my words. On here? Maybe I'll be heard...not that anything stops people from clicking the little red square with an x in it but maybe some will read to the end and either come to understand or at least be open enough to think about it.

I will do my best to explain what she meant.

It means....while you have your boundaries; you let the person know, "These are my boundaries and I don't accept them being crossed" you don't have the right to expect someone to stay within those boundaries. You hope they don't, you put trust in to them that they won't, but you can't expect them not to. You see, when you expect something from someone and they don't deliver and you get mad? That's all on you. It's your fault for how you feel. You alone are responsible for how any particular situation or circumstance is going to make you feel. Oh yes, yes you are.

I'll start off small: Say it's your birthday and you are sitting there expecting your boyfriend or girlfriend, husband, wife or friends to take you out on that day. They don't. You get upset. Guess what? That's your fault.

Say someone makes plans with you and you expect them to show up. They change those plans or they don't show up. You get upset. That's your fault.

If someone says they are going to call you or email you or text message you and they don't...you get upset? That's your fault.